|Music theory, a photo by Craig Blackmoore on Flickr.|
Remove the obstacle, shrink it substantially in terms of its motivational killing power, by finding out, in detail, what's required to achieve whatever it is that you want to achieve.
Here's an example: a high school student is interested in a career in music therapy. College is still three years away, but she went online and found out the admissions requirements for the program at the college in which she is interested. She gulped a bit when she digested the size of the list of items she'd need to know well enough to demonstrate. The education will be the reward for fulfilling the qualifications, to earn the right to be there.
This student is gulping, but she's not stopping. She's aligning her high school course load to prepare her. Thank heaven she checked the requirements so early in her high school career, so she will have time to learn what she needs to know. Music therapy has now made a shift in this student's mind from a fantasy to a goal.
There are so many other examples of individuals making (or not making) the connection with their dreams simply by identifying the requirements:
- The teenager who envisioned himself a Navy Seal, yet dismissed the idea that he might have to learn to swim. Really well. To save his life and the lives of others. Failure to identify and pursue the required knowledge and skills (not to mention swimming lessons) meant that this young man never joined the Navy, much less the elite Seals.
- The unemployed adult who fantasized about owning his own business. He talked to SCORE (Service Corps of Retired Executives) and the local office of the SBA (Small Business Administration) to find out what he needed to know to develop his game plan for his business. He developed his plan and implemented it, and made his dream a reality.
How do you really know whether something is possible for you or not? Only you can determine whether it is - your best friend might have a vested interest in holding you back, your dad might have preconcieved notions about you from back when you were a surly teen, and your neighbors might only be able to see you as they always see you - as the nice guy who mows his lawn in a checkerboard pattern. What is possible is more often decided by "want to" rather than "allowed to," "expected to," or "can".
You have to find out what is required, and then determine whether you have the desire to do whatever is necessary to make it happen. If you find out that you have to be able to stand on your head for 5 minutes straight in order to do what you want to do, you might realize that you aren't interested in working up to that 5-minute headstand. You make a decision not to go there. Or you might want the ultimate outcome so badly that you are willing to do ANYTHING that's required to get you there. When you make this conscious, intentional go or no-go decision you are being active in creating your future. You're not allowing it to slip through your fingers, or to fall into the hands of circumstance. You can be choosing to make the improbable possible for you.