The concept of the Law of Attraction sounds great, doesn't it? (For those skeptics among us, perhaps this post will explain why you're feeling skeptical.) Attraction says you focus your mind on something and all of a sudden - poof! There it is in front of you, the very thing you have been wishing for. But it isn't that simple. You and your habits of thought might be the biggest thing standing between you and that whatever you've been trying to bring into your life.
Here's the deal: sometimes the thing you're trying to attract is a little hard for you to believe. It would be nice, but you don't have complete faith that it will happen. Perhaps you're unsure that you can really return to a size 6 dress or a 34 waist. You might be doubting that the good-looking, interesting partner that you want to attract wiIl be attracted to you. So instead of keeping your eye on the thing you want your focus turns to your current lack of it, or you're thinking, "I don't know if it's realistic to expect..."
You might not be allowing that which you want to come to you because the word "because" is interfering. "I can't return to a size 6 because overweight runs in my family," or "I can't get my Ph.D. because I'm too old." The usual go-to tool for we coaches is positive self-talk to help clients get past their doubts, but in the case of attraction the belief factor is so important that we need to add some extra bells and whistles. The typical affirmation incorporates four criteria:
- First person singular "I"
- Present tense (as though you have it or are doing it consistently already)
- Within your ability to believe
- Related to your goals
- I am in the process of ... ("I am in the process of attracting my ideal mate"), or
- I have decided...("I have decided that I'm going for my Ph.D.")
Last, start noticing signs that attraction is at work. Perhaps you'll have a "chance encounter" with a business owner who just happens to be in the industry in which you want to attract a new job. A quarter you find on the sidewalk might be a sign of more money working its way toward you. It's possible that the clues are around you already, but that you haven't been focused enough on whatever it is that you want to notice them and make the association.
The thing you want to attract probably won't drop on your head in one fell swoop. It might reveal itself in opportunities that you need to take advantage of, or in people that you need to take the initiative to get to know. But keep your eyes open, because it's out there.