What do you do when the going gets tough? I'm certain that you have habits in which you engage when you're met with circumstances similar to ones you've experienced before.
For example, when we hear a certain kind of music in a movie we know that something sinister is about to happen. Some people watch, intending to enjoy the jump they'll do when the bad guy pops out from behind the door. Others hold onto the arms of the chair so they won't show a visible reaction (and feel silly about it.) Some don't watch the screen until the foreshadowed event actually happens - they don't want to look. And other people avoid that sort of movie altogether.
Right now we aren't at a movie. We can't choose not to be here (well, not unless we do something pretty extreme.) So here we are. What do you do when the world is rocking around you?
- Curl up in a knee-chest position with your thumb in your mouth?
- Attack, by words or actions, the people you hold responsble for your circumstances?
- Take action, any action, to blow off steam and feel like at least you're doing something?
- Start learning and strategizing?
- Sit back and watch, looking for an opening?
- Wait for someone to rescue you?
There are three key questions to ask yourself in tough times:
- Is your usual method working, or do you need to carve a different path?
- Is there a way in which you have contributed to the creation of your own hard times?
- Is there a course of action you can take that will help prevent you from creating them again?
It's great to have outside support when the going gets tough for you. But you are the only person whose actions you can control. If you are waiting for someone else (or blaming someone else) you are making yourself a victim, eroding your self-image and preventing your own growth and development. Drive your own car.
(thanks to Ozventure for the photo)