'Let's have a party!' with Pat Dodd and His Boys, Michael Sammes Singers and others
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I have a couple of single friends who dread the question, "So how's your social life?" Usually the question is accompanied by a couple of Groucho-esque eyebrow wiggles, completing the code that the question is asking about potential romance. Needless to say, it's not all about romance. Whether you're young or old, married or single - how is your social life?
For some clients my question is the first one that anyone (including themselves) has asked them in a long time. Some respond by saying, "Well, I'm really not the social type. I'd rather be at home in my workshop or reading a good book." OK. Others have answered, "I have a lot of social engagements, but they are really for work. I'd rather spend more time with people I'm choosing for myself."
Whether your social calendar is jam-packed or clean and free of obligations, consider the following:
- Are there people you could call in the middle of the night if you had a problem?
- Are your social relationships two-way or a bit one-sided?
- Do you prefer a wide circle of acquaintances or a few close friends?
- Do your social connections cover several different parts of your life, or do all of your friends come from the same circle (other sports parents, church, neighborhood, etc.)
- Are your friends largely similar to one another, or are they diverse?
There is no one best answer or ideal profile for social development. The key is that you are choosing to grow more and more in alignment with what you want for your life. Is there something you would like to try, or somebody with whom you would like to pursue a closer connection? Then go for it.
You don't have to be perfect to have friends, and you don't have to have a lot of money, the coolest stuff or the best job. If you develop them your connections can carry you through even the toughest times that you will ever face. Perhaps you are in the position right now to be a friend to someone who really needs some support.