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Doing nothing is a decision. It's a decision not to engage to influence an outcome. This situation that you're not deciding about might indeed be none of your business. Or you might be allowing another person the space to learn and to decide for themselves.
Are you, however, placing yourself in a victim life position by choosing not to choose? Victimhood does not necessarily mean that one has been mugged or robbed or pillaged. Victims are acted upon, sometimes because they are sitting back and waiting for someone else to take action.
If you are waiting for someone else you are making yourself subject to their decision process. And if their decision has an impact on your life do you really want to give them that authority? You might not like what you get, but if you took no action to create a different outcome it's on you - not on them - if you don't like it.
This is how fear creates self-fulfilling prophecies. Worry leads to paralysis (no action), which leads to an outcome over which the individual has no influence (because of the no action). When the outcome is not to the individual's advantage he or she then exclaims, "See! I told you so!" The very thing that they worried about came to pass.
Don't want to choose to be victimized by someone else's choices?
- Think about what you would consider the most desirable result. Envision it in detail, noticing what it looks like, sounds like, feels like, etc. Write it down.
- Analyze why you want that result to occur. How will it benefit you? And while you're thinking about why, predict what will likely happen if you do nothing. Write it down - the upside and downside.
- Consider what elements (obstacles) are preventing that desirable result from happening. Write these down too. There is no magic number here - the point is to list every one.
- Now for each of the obstacles, think about some possible work-arounds. What might help you get over, through, under, past each one. Perhaps there are even solutions that prevent an anticipated obstacle from popping up at all!
- Choose the best solutions and lay out a plan of action. You define what "best" means, but some individuals choose the quickest, simplest, cheapest solutions and then give themselves timelines to do them. A "best" solution might address more than one of your obstacles in a single action.
- Do something. Act. Put your plan of action into play. Evaluate the results of the individual action steps and move on to the next ones.
- If the first action step doesn't overcome the obstacle it was chosen to address, go back to your solutions and pick another. You have already done the bulk of your thinking - now it's a matter of implementing plan B, C, etc. until you're on the right track.
As soon as you start thinking and writing things down you are impacting your attitude. You are choosing your way out of victim mode and into creator mode. You might not care about the outcome, but if you do care about which way it falls...activate yourself. Influence the outcome. Create the future you want.